Friday, 2 June 2023

#Separate #Facts from #Problems


*Separate Facts from Problems*

Many negative emotions are triggered by an inappropriate overreaction to an unexpected setback or difficulty.

It is vital that you carefully analyze a problem when it occurs to ensure that you thoroughly understand it and what you can do to deal with it or resolve it.

Make the distinction between a fact and a problem. The difference is simple. A fact is something that is unchangeable

Your age is a fact. The weather is a fact. Certain things just are, They cannot be altered. They are facts.

One of the keys to happiness is to resolve to never become upset or angry about a fact. Just as you do not become angry at physical things, like a piece
of furniture because you bumped into it, you do not become angry or upset about facts. You simply accept them and adjust your life and activities around

What, then, is a problem?

A problem is something you can do something about.
A goal unachieved is a problem unsolved.
An obstacle in your path is a problem unsolved.
You can focus your intelligence and ability on solving problems and achieving goals.
Problems are simply challenges that you deal
with as you go through life.

There are two time periods in your life: the past and the future.
The present is a single moment passing between the two. Into what category of time do we put facts, and into what category do we put problems?

The truth is that most facts that make you unhappy exist in the past.

Something that happened in the past is a fact. It is unchangeable. This is important to understand because many people are miserable and unhappy in
the present because of something that did not work out the way they expected it to sometime in the past.

But because it happened, or didn't happen, in the past, it is now an unchangeable fact. It does no good to be upset about a fact.

A problem exists in the future. A problem is an issue that you can do something about. This is an area where you can focus your intelligence and ability into achieving a different result.
A problem, the future, is under your control, and its outcome is determined by what you do in the present

Separate Facts from Problems & stay blessed forever.



Sunday, 9 April 2023


*What Are You Worth?*

Self Worth

In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question:"*What kind of man are you looking for?*"

She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye & asking, "*Do you really want to know?*"

Reluctantly, he said, "Yes." 

She began to expound: 

"As a woman in this day & age, I am in a position to ask a man what can you do for me that I can't do for myself? 

I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man.... or woman for that matter. 

I am in the position to ask, "What can you bring to the table?"

The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money. 

She quickly corrected his thought & stated, "I am not referring to money. I need something more." 

"*I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life.*" 

He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, & asked her to explain. 

She said:

"I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I need conversation & mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-minded man. 

I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked...believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster. 

I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don't need a financial burden. 

I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded. 

I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and game playing are not my idea of a strong man. 

I need a man who is family-oriented. One who can be the leader, priest and provider to the lives entrusted to him by God. 

I need someone whom I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him. 

I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business. 

I have no problem being submissive...he just has to be worthy. 

And by the way, I am not looking for him...He will find me. He will recognize himself in me. He may not be able to explain the connection, but he will always be drawn to me. God made woman to be a helpmate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help himself." 

When she finished her spill, she looked at him. 

He sat there with a puzzled look on his face.

He said, "*You are asking a lot.*"

She replied, "*I'm worth a lot.*"



Saturday, 27 August 2022

Make #peace with #yourself

*Make peace with yourself*

By now, everybody has heard about Stefan Thomas, the guy who only gets two more guesses at his password to recover his wallet containing over $200 Million in bitcoin.

New York Times reported on this last year: 'The problem is that Mr. Thomas years ago lost the paper where he wrote down the password for his IronKey, which gives users 10 guesses before it seizes up and encrypts its contents forever. He has since tried eight of his most commonly used password formulations — to no avail.'

"I would just lay in bed and think about it," Mr. Thomas said. "Then I would go to the computer with some new strategy, and it wouldn't work, and I would be desperate again."

It's excruciating just thinking about it.

*Regret can be more painful than loss itself.*

The total value of all Bitcoin stands around $1 Trillion as of today, down from its high of $ 3 Trillion at one time.

So, going by the 20% estimated amount mentioned in the Times article, lost forever due to forgotten passwords etc, an estimated $200 Billion in Bitcoin has been lost maybe not to be retrieved.

That's a big number that could grow considerably when the value of the digital asset increases over time and as additional Bitcoin are mined.

Stefan Thomas says he long ago "made peace" with the reality that he may never gain access to his approx $200 million Bitcoin fortune.

At times, it is best to make peace, rather than lose sleep over it.

We all lose peace over, 'Alas, what could have been, phenomenon' and continuously torture ourselves.

Make peace with yourself and your reality this Sunday and stay blessed forever. The key is to find harmony in what you have.



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"Begin with praise and honest appreciation.

Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.

Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.

Ask questions instead of giving direct orders...Make the fault easy to correct. Make the other person happy about doing what you suggest."

--- Dale Carnegie

How do you correct a behavior in another that is unwanted at work or at home?

Of course there are many ways to do it, but how do you do it so the other person gets the message and is willing to try your suggestion?

Dale Carnegie knew the answer.

Be gentle with people. Treat others the way you would like to be treated. Follow his advice and you might be very surprised how often the conversation starts and ends on a positive note.



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Thursday, 25 August 2022


*'True Strength'*

Many years ago, as a young lad, I was trying to move a heavy stone.

After much huffing & puffing and all my best efforts, I couldn't budge it.

I remember my father, passing by, stopped to watch my effort.
Finally he said to me, "Are you using all your strength for this?"

Yes Iam,I cried exasperated.

"No", my father said calmly. You are not using all your strength.
Your real strength lies in your family & friends.
Have you asked them to help you?

And then the wisdom dawned on me.
Real strength is to seek help & give help.

In life and in business, we rely on each other to be responsible for individual tasks that benefit everyone. People sometimes forget how much interdependence there really is in this world and in a successful business.

Learn the art of asking for help to empower and motivate others, and you will have learnt a very powerful management strategy.

Use your real strength, seek help wherever required & Give help to whomever & whenever required & stay blessed forever



Tuesday, 26 July 2022

#Reason, #Season and a #Lifetime - Why Do People Come Into Our Lives?*

*Reason, Season and a Lifetime - Why Do People Come Into Our Lives?*

People always come into your life for a reason, a season and a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, or to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually. They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are. They are there for a reason, you need them to be.

Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die, Sometimes they just walk away.
Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall, the season eventually ends.

LIFETIME, relationships teach you a lifetime of lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway);, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being part of my life...



Friday, 18 March 2022

#Time #Circumstances

*You can be with someone everyday and still not know who they really are, until you are put in a situation where hard decisions have to be made.*

*Time doesn't define where you stand in a person's life,*