Monday 30 November 2015

#The Monk Moment

The Monk Moment - Many great entrepreneurs have had a moment when they have lost everything. Monks create this situation intentionally through "Vairagya" when they give up all money and possessions. Many entrepreneurs end up in the same situation unintentionally. :-)

Elon Musk lost $180M and was in debt in 2008. Seven years later, he's worth $13 billion, but he'd be ready to risk it all again. Steve Jobs lost his entire Apple fortune by 1994, betting it on NeXT and Pixar. In 1995 everything turned around, he sold NeXT to Apple, Pixar to Disney and he passed away an icon. Walt Disney mortgaged away his entire fortune in the 1950s to build Disneyland, against everyone's advice. He too went from giving up everything to becoming a legend. Each bet everything material they had on something invisible - their purpose and vision.

Monks call the state that comes after giving up everything "Moksha" which means liberation from the illusion. We're not alive until we know what we'd die for.

I'm not saying great entrepreneurs are monks, but they do have 'monk moments' when they lose everything.

Many of the greatest entrepreneurs unintentionally find themselves in this state by betting everything on their dream. Maybe you're in this place right now. It is a place of pure power. When you have nothing to lose, you have infinite potential.

That is provided you don't focus on what you've lost, but on everything you have to gain. That's when everything turns around. As Walt Disney said "I don't make movies to make money. I make money to make movies".
That's the paradox of entrepreneurs having a 'near-death' experience where they lose it all. Steve Jobs wrote:

"Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life.

Almost everything--all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure--these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don't want to die to get there. And yet, death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it, and that is how it should be, because death is very likely the single best invention of life. It's life's change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new."

What mission is so important to you, that you'd be ready to clear out the old and make way for your new?

Sonal Jain
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Sunday 29 November 2015

#Different Expressions

Different Expressions

 A young girl and her father were on a pilgrimage. When they reached the temple of Shiva, her father said, "Lets collect bilva leaves and dhatura flowers and offer them to Shiva to show our devotion." This is what the father and daughter did. Then, they reached a Vishnu temple, and her father said, "Lets collect tulsi leaves and offer it to Vishnu to show our devotion." This is what the father and daughter did. Then they reached a Ganesha temple. On the father's advice, the daughter offered blades of grass. At the temple of the Kali, the daughter was told to offer neem leaves and lemons. At the temple of Hanuman, she offered sesame oil.

 The daughter was confused, "You say all gods are actually one." "Yes," the father confirmed. "Then why different offerings to different gods?" "Because," said the father, "Each form is different and different forms need to be told the same thing in different ways. Each time we have expressed our devotion but the vehicle of communication has changed depending on the preferences of the recipient. That is why:  the wild bilva and poisonous dhatura for the hermit Shiva, the fragrant tulsi for the romantic Vishnu, the rapidly regenerating grass for Ganesha who was resurrected with an elephant head, the sour lemon and bitter neem for Kali who consumes all things, negativity included, and sesame for Hanuman, the mighty wrestler, feared even by death."

 Often we want to communicate an idea to our customers. But we do not pay adequate attention to the method of communication. The method chosen should be the function of the customer. Different customers need different methods. But most corporations find the idea of customizing methods of communication rather inefficient. So they try to come up with an efficient standard method of communication, often at the cost of effectiveness.

 Vishal had learnt in a training workshop the value of an 'elevator speech' to express his idea to a customer in less than a minute. He had used it many times. But it never had the desired effect – an appointment with the client. He wondered why. His colleague who had greater success with the elevator speech asked him over a cup of coffee, "In which language was the elevator speech for Mr. Masand?" English, said Vishal. "But you and I both know Mr. Masand prefers speaking in Hindi."

 At that moment the penny dropped. While speaking to the customer, Vishal was focusing on what he wanted to communicate and not on how it was received by the customer.

 Communication is not so much about the idea but about the customer. The method of communication depends on the capacity, capability and intent of the customer, and not so much on the capacity, capability and intent of the communicator. The reference point is the customer and not the communicator. This is often forgotten.

 That is why the same devotion is expressed differently for different gods: bilva for Shiva, tulsi for Vishnu, grass for Ganesha, hibiscus for Kali and sesame for Hanuman!

Sonal Jain
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#Thought

A beautiful thought-
No one can go back & change a bad beginning!
But anyone can start anything anytime & create a
successful ending!!

Sonal Jain
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Friday 27 November 2015

#Baby giraffes

Baby giraffes never go to school. But they learn a very important lesson rather early in life.

A lesson that all of us would do well to remember.

The birth of a baby giraffe is quite an earth-shaking event. The baby falls from its mother's womb, some eight feet above the ground. It shrivels up and lies still, too weak to move.

The mother giraffe lovingly lowers her neck to smooch the baby giraffe. And then something unbelievable happens. She lifts her long leg and kicks the baby giraffe, sending it flying up in the air and tumbling down on the ground.

As the baby lies curled up, the mother kicks the baby again and again until the baby giraffe, still trembling and tired, pushes its limbs and for the first time learns to stand on its feet.

Happy to see the baby standing on its own feet, the mother giraffe comes over and gives it yet another kick. The baby giraffe falls one more time, but now quickly recovers and stands up.

Mama Giraffe is delighted. She knows that her baby has learnt an important lesson:

Never mind how hard you fall, always remember to pick yourself up and get back on your feet.

Why does the mother giraffe do this? She knows that lions and leopards love giraffe meat. So unless the baby giraffe quickly learns to stand and run with the pack, it will have no chance of survival.

Most of us though are not quite as lucky as baby giraffes. No one teaches us to stand up every time we fall.

When we fail, when we are down, we just give up.
No one kicks us out of our comfort zone to remind us that to survive and succeed, we need to learn to get back on our feet.

This message is to everyone who hasn't given up and those who will always have the courage to get back , dust everything off and start again..

Sonal Jain
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Thursday 26 November 2015

#Lucky

Good Research on  Definition of Lucky and Unlucky. Worth to read and re-read and re-read whenever we feel we are  Unlucky...............
                          
    Why some people have all the Luck ?  

By Professor Richard  Wiseman, University of Hertfordshire.

Why do some people get all the luck while others never get the breaks they deserve?

A psychologist says he has discovered the answer.

Ten years ago, I set out to examine luck. I wanted to know why some people are always in the right place at the right time, while others consistently experience ill fortune. I placed advertisements in national newspapers asking for people who felt consistently lucky or unlucky to contact me.

Hundreds of extraordinary men & women volunteered for my research & over the years, I have interviewed them, monitored their lives & had them take part in experiments.

The results reveal that although these people have almost no insight into the causes of their luck, their thoughts & behaviour are responsible for much of their good &  bad fortune. Take the case of seemingly chance opportunities. Lucky people consistently encounter such opportunities, whereas unlucky people do not.

I carried out a simple experiment to discover whether this was due to differences in their ability to spot such opportunities. I gave both lucky and unlucky people a newspaper, and asked them to look through it & tell me how many photographs were inside. I had secretly placed a large message halfway through the newspaper saying : "Tell the experimenter you have seen this and win $50."

This message took up half of the page & was written in type that was more than two inches high. It was staring everyone straight in the face, but the unlucky people tended to miss it & the lucky people tended to spot it.

Unlucky people are generally more tense than lucky people, and this anxiety disrupts their ability to notice the unexpected. As a result, they miss opportunities because they are too focused on looking for something else. They go to parties'; intent on finding their perfect partner & so miss opportunities to make good friends. They look through newspapers determined to find certain types of job advertisements & miss other types of jobs.

Lucky people are more relaxed & open, and therefore see what is there rather than just what they are looking for. My research eventually revealed that lucky people generate good fortune via four principles. They are skilled at creating & noticing chance opportunities, make lucky decisions by listening to their intuition, create self-fulfilling prophesies via positive expectations, and adopt a resilient attitude that transforms bad luck into good.

Towards the end of the work, I wondered whether these principles could be used to create good luck. I asked a group of volunteers to spend a month carrying out exercises designed to help them think & behave like a lucky person. Dramatic results ! These exercises helped them spot chance opportunities, listen to their intuition, expect to be lucky, and be more resilient to bad luck. One month later, the volunteers returned & described what had happened. The results were dramatic : 80% of people were now happier, more satisfied with their lives & perhaps most important of all, luckier.

The lucky people had become even luckier & the unlucky had become lucky. Finally, I had found the elusive "luck factor".

Here are Professor Wiseman's four top tips for becoming lucky:
1) Listen to your gut instincts - they are normally right
2) Be open to new experiences and breaking your normal routine
3) Spend a few moments each day remembering things that went well
4) Visualize yourself being lucky before an important meeting or telephone call.
Have a Lucky day and work for it... "

The happiest people in the world are not those who have no problems, but those who learn to live with things that are less than perfect."

" There is a great difference  between "worry"  &  "concern",
A worried person only sees the problem & a concerned person solves the problem..!"

TO BE LUCKY OR UNLUCKY - it is by  practice and choice.

Sonal Jain
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Wednesday 25 November 2015

#The law of universe


The law of universe neither blesses us nor punishes us.

It only responds to the vibrations of our attitude.

Happiness in life depends on how we perceive it.

That is why some are happy beggars and others are sad millionaires.

Sonal Jain
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Tuesday 24 November 2015

# Moment

Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.

Sonal Jain
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Monday 23 November 2015

#Success

Success has only one Formula :

Stop Thinking in Terms of Limitations
& Start Thinking in Terms of Possibilities .

Sonal Jain
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Sunday 22 November 2015

#Commitment

Commitment is an act, not a word. It unlocks the doors of imagination, allows vision, gives us the "right stuff" to turn our dreams into reality.

Sonal Jain
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Saturday 21 November 2015

#Prism

Life is like a prism....what we  see depends on how we  turn the glass.😊

Sonal Jain
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Friday 20 November 2015

#Gems

Gems cannot be polished without friction,

nor a man perfected without adversity.

You have to fight thru some bad days to earn the best days of your life.


Sonal Jain
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Wednesday 18 November 2015

Post power and prosperity

Post, Power & Prosperity are External and Changeable,

But,

Knowledge, Truth & Principles are Internal and Permanent.

Sonal Jain
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Tuesday 17 November 2015

#The 10th apple effect

The 10th apple effect!!
Long... but real n intresting... pls read..

A hunter once lost his way deep inside the jungle while chasing a deer. He used all his navigation skills but neither did he find any way out of the jungle nor could he find any food to eat for 8 days at a stretch. He started feeling so damn hungry that he could eat an entire elephant at one go. Disappointed, he lost all hope. And that is exactly when an apple tree caught his sight. He collected a dozen apples to feed him for the rest of his search.

As he ate the 1st apple, his joy knew no bounds and he just couldn't stop feeling grateful and blessed. He thanked life. He thanked God. He could not believe his luck when he ate the 1st apple but he was less grateful while having the 2nd apple and even lesser grateful when he had the 5th apple. Somehow, with each passing apple, the hunger still kept on increasing and the joy kept on reducing drastically. He just could not enjoy the 10th apple. Why? He had already taken for granted the gift of having found an apple tree in the middle of a forest after 8 long days of wandering with hunger. When he took the 10th apple in his hand, he was still very hungry but he just did not feel like having it any more. Economics calls this diminishing marginal utility. I would like to call it diminishing gratitude, in simple words, taking things for granted. Or let's just call it the 10th apple effect.

The 10th apple did not lack taste, it did not lack the potential to satisfy his hunger but the only thing lacking was his gratitude for finding food in the middle of the jungle.

The hunter represents us. And the apple represents the gifts that life gives us. The 10th apple represents our lack of gratitude for these gifts of life and our 'take everything for granted' attitude. As we continue receiving the gifts of life, our hunger, our greed keeps on increasing and the joy we get from these gifts diminishes.

Imagine the joy you get when you deliver a baby and hold your baby in your hands for the first time. The gratitude you have in that moment, for life and for God is unmatched. But what happens as time passes? Do you get the same joy when you look at your child every single day? Do you still find enough happy time to spend with your kids? Never let the 10th apple effect make you feel less grateful for the gift of a child.
The 10th apple is as sweet as the first apple. If the 10th apple fails to give you as much pleasure as the first one, nothing is wrong with the apple, everything is wrong with you. If you get bored on a dull day, it is not because the day is dull and boring. It is because your gratitude has become dull and boring. The gift of life for another day cannot be taken for granted. The Nth year of life should seem as exciting as the 16th year, as the 25th year, as the 50th year.

Never let the '10th apple effect' make you take these gifts of life for granted. Never let your gratitude for life fade away. Happy life!⁠⁠⁠⁠

Sonal Jain
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Monday 16 November 2015

A meaningful life is not being rich,
being popular, being highly educated or being perfect…

It is about being real,
being humble, being able to share ourselves and touch the lives of others.

It is only then that we could have a full, happy and contented life.

Sonal Jain

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Sunday 15 November 2015

#Ability motivation and attitude

Ability is what you are capable of doing....

Motivation determines what you do....

Attitude determines how well you do it....

Sonal Jain
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Friday 13 November 2015

#Change

When we are no longer able to change a situation - we are challenged to change ourselves.


Sonal Jain

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Thursday 12 November 2015

#Fresh Lime Water story

Fresh Lime Water

The other day I was preparing fresh lime water for the first time. I ended up adding five times the amount of lemon than needed. It was a disaster. It tasted so sour that one sip of it would have been enough to make a dinosaur dance. I had to correct it anyhow. How I wish I could remove some lemon juice from water to make it taste perfect again! But alas! Some things can never be  undone. Some things can never be changed. There was no way to remove the extra lime. So what was the solution then? The only way to correct this was to add four more glasses of water and dilute the lemon juice to make five glasses of fresh lime water.

This made me think. Sometimes we cannot undo some things that have gone wrong in life. Some wrong decisions, wrong choices, wrong investments, wrong actions, wrong associations, wrong words or wrong doings can never be undone. So what is the solution then? When you cannot correct what is wrong, do not waste more time over it. It is like attempting to remove lemon from water. Instead, get busy in adding so many right things in your life that the wrong seems insignificant.

We all have a negative side to ourselves. We may not be able to remove or correct all our negativities. But we can definitely continue adding positive thoughts, positive reading and positive people in our lives and dilute the negativity. We all have to deal with some easy people and some difficult people in our lives. Do not waste time trying to change the difficult people. You will drain all your emotional energy in vain. Instead spend more time with the pleasant positive happy people and the difficult people will not affect you any more.

We all have been through lows in life and we cannot change that. But if we now add new highs in life, we will dilute the lows, isn't it? In the end life will seem 'mostly high'. We all have scars in life. We all have been through some pain in life. We all have made mistakes in life. We all have unfulfilled dreams, unanswered prayers. We cannot remove these bitter memories from life but we could get busy making new happy memories now.

Sometimes we wonder, why do bad things happen to good people? Why do good people suffer? It is because of the same reason. Even if you have no bad karma in this life, you cannot undo the bad karma of your past lives. You have to pay for it. Even good people have sometimes succumbed to the bad and unintentionally done some bad karma in the past. Karma is a tough one. It will make even good people pay for it. You cannot undo that bad karma. But yes, you can now make sure you add a lot of good karma now and dilute the bad karma. Do so much good karma that the bad karma gets overshadowed. Your sufferings will then end forever.

Everything in your life will never be perfect. Do not waste too much time correcting what is wrong. Get busy doing the right things.


Sonal Jain

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Tuesday 10 November 2015

# Happy diwali

Monday 9 November 2015

#Story

Please read: Very Inspiring

A wise old man was sitting at the river bank when he saw a cat that had fallen into the water, flailing around, trying to save itself from drowning.
The man decided to save the cat. He stretched his hand out but was scratched by the cat. He pulled his hand back in pain.
However, a minute later he stretched his hand out again to save the cat, but it scratched him again, and again he pulled his hand back in pain.
Another minute later he was yet again trying for the third time!!

A man, who was nearby watching what was happening, yelled out: "O wise man, you have not learned your lesson the first time, nor the second time, and now you are trying to save the cat a third time?"

The wise man paid no heed to that man's scolding, and kept on trying until he managed to save the cat.

He then walked over to the man, and patted his shoulder saying: "My son.. it is in the cat's nature to scratch, and it is in my nature to love and have sympathy.
Why do you want me to let the cat's nature overcome mine !?!!

Treat people according to your nature, not according to theirs, no matter what they are like and no matter how numerous are their actions that harm you and cause you hurt sometimes.

And do not pay heed to all the voices that loudly call out to you to leave behind your good qualities merely because the other party is not deserving of your noble actions.

So never regret the moments you gave happiness to someone, even if that person did not deserve it.

Sonal Jain
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Monday 2 November 2015

#Sustenance

Once an old man was sitting in his usual place, dhikr of Almighty on his lips.
Slightly pre-occupied with the loaf of bread which was going to be his sustenance for the day.

Always the same..... One loaf of bread.

And  Moosaa happened to be walking past. The old man thought - "Here is my chance to send a message to Almighty...."

So he greeted Moosaa, and said somewhat falteringly:
"Oh Holy Man, when you are speaking to your Creator, can you ask Him to increase my (sustenance).... For so long now, all I have is a single loaf of bread per day.
I long for more.  Can I not have more than this....?    If you ask him Oh Moosaa, surely HE will grant me more....."

Without hesitation the reply he got from Moosaa, that his question would be put to Almighty.

And so it was, and the reply that Moosaa,  received was that the Old Man's lot in life was to receive one loaf of bread per day.  

That had been written for the Old Man for all his life.
The next time prophet saw the old man, and he passed on the message that 'one loaf of bread is all that he would receive, as it was written so, in his destiny'.

The old man was overjoyed.   He clapped his hands with glee. Surprised by this reaction Moosaa, asked him the reason for his joy.   The man replied, "If it is written, then so it shall be!!!! I have nothing to worry about. At least I will always receive one loaf of bread for the rest of my life......"   and with that he went back to his prayers.

Now as the months passed, the man's tranquility increased with the knowledge that he need not worry about his sustenance.    This enabled him to focus more on his remembrance of God, which led to him having less time to focus on food, and even less time to eat. So, from eating one loaf of bread, he barely managed to eat half a loaf.

What remained of the loaf of bread every day, was put in a corner.   Soon, the pile in the corner began to increase, until it became a huge heap.
One morning a herdsman was passing through the village and stopped to speak to the old man.   He was looking for hay for his livestock - but there was none to be found.  

The old man said to him : "Why don't you take the stale bread that is lying in that heap, soften it with water and give it to your animals....."   The herdsman did this and his herd happily ate every last crumb.   

The herdsman, to show his gratitude, gave the old man a nanny goat, and went on his way.

Days passed into months and a few years had gone by when  Moosaa, happened to be passing this way again.   To his astonishment he found the that the spot where the old man used to sit had been transformed into a garden.  

There were fruit trees growing nearby, and animals grazing not very far away.  There was a field with grain, and a general atmosphere of abundance and well being.   Moosa, found out that all this belonged to the old man. 

Puzzled, because he knew what was written in the old man's destiny - a single loaf of bread per day - prophet went on his way determined to find out what this was all about.

"How could this be?"   "A loaf a day is all that was written.........., yet he had so much more ..."

The answer .... "One loaf of bread was the sustenance that had been written for the old man. The fruit trees, the live stock and field of crops were the blessings which came from has acceptance of what had been written, as his lot in life."

It was his reward for  his complete trust in Almighty. The  (Abundance) was the result of his shift in focus from what he wanted, to enjoying what he had,  to such a degree, that even after eating as much as he wanted, he still had some left.  His needs had become so small. The abundance this created in the old man's life was compounded by his generosity and willingness to share what he had.

So Rizq is written. But, Barkat comes when we Trust in Almighty, when we are generous with what we  have , and are grateful.

Sonal Jain
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#The sentence of a wise Judge

From Ancient China: 'The sentence of a wise Judge'

A farmer in ancient China had a neighbor who was a hunter, and who owned ferocious and poorly trained hunting dogs. They jumped the fence frequently and chased the farmer's lambs. The farmer asked his neighbor to keep his dogs in check, but this fell on deaf ears.
One day the dogs again jumped the fence and attacked and severely injured several of the lambs.
The farmer had had enough, and went to town to consult a judge who listened carefully to the story and said: "I could punish the hunter and instruct him to keep his dogs chained or lock them up. But you would lose a friend and gain an enemy. Which would you rather have, friend or foe for a neighbor?" The farmer replied that he preferred a friend.
"Alright, I will offer you a solution that keeps your lambs safe, and which will keep your a neighbor a friend." Having heard the judge's solution, the farmer agreed.
Once at home, the farmer immediately put the judge's suggestions to the test. He took three of his best lambs and presented them to his neighbor's three small sons, who were beside themselves with joy and began to play with them. To protect his son's newly acquired playthings, the hunter built a strong kennel for his dogs. Since then, the dogs never again bothered the farmer's lambs.
Out of gratitude for the farmer's generosity toward his sons, the hunter often shared the game he had hunted with the farmer. The farmer reciprocated by sending the hunter lamb meat and cheese he had made. Within a short time the neighbors became good friends.
A saying in old China went something like this, "One can win over and influence people the best with gestures of kindness and compassion." A similar American saying: "One catches more flies with honey than with vinegar!

Sonal Jain
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