Friday 15 May 2020


*Accept what is and let go of the need to know*

Have you ever felt that you must see justice done or understand why something happened in order to move on? The truth is, you may never discover the why behind an incident. Does that mean you should wait to forgive and to be at peace?

The Buddha once cautioned a student full of lofty questions not to become like the man who is shot with a poisoned arrow but will not allow the doctor to take it out until he knows the name of the man who wounded him, his height, what kind of string his bow was made of, and what kind of feathers made up its shaft. We all get hit by slings and arrows of outrageous fortune from time to time. Is it more important to know "Who was responsible for this? And how can I pay them back?" Or will you heal more quickly by taking out the poisoned arrow, honoring the ending, and setting yourself free?

Letting go is a step-by-step process and it is not always easy. Acknowledge your pain. Don't ignore your feelings, but don't allow your life to be hijacked by them either. Once you've given yourself time to process your emotions and grieve, whenever you notice your thoughts starting to wander along the twists and turns of the past, gently bring yourself back to the present. You may have to do this again and again. That's okay. Be patient with yourself.